Life constantly doesn’t go as planned, and most of the time, we don’t get to start over again. We get stuck at that point, not knowing how to get back on track to a rigid set of ideas and rules of what we want, rather than looking at where we are and retooling. Be adaptable to changes, especially changes that are outside of your control.
There are plenty of people who let their nerves get in the way of success. The college student so afraid of public speaking that they cannot give the presentation required for their degree. The job seeker so afraid a job won’t be perfect enough that their non verbal behavior blows an interview. The person who walks away instead of having a difficult conversation. The woman at the bar who notices an attractive man, but is too nervous of making a fool of herself to approach him and say hello.
That initial improvement comes from starting with nothing. Eventually, you’ll plateau, have a setback, or fight injury. Running isn’t fun. You’re slower. It hurts. Your friends on Strava seem to be flying past you in their own quests to run PRs. Many runners hit this point and quit, but the ones who figure out the challenge, make the changes, and reboot can go further and faster.
I’m in the same spot in my life. I know where I’m going, but it doesn’t seem to be moving fast enough to get there. I feel like I’m plodding along, keeping my head afloat, and every ounce of forward momentum turns to a setback. I know I’m being challenged, and I need to keep retooling and practicing and failing and learning and growing. I need to accept that this process could take years, or even a decade, so I need to celebrate every step forward and overcome every setback. Just like I believe I’m capable of being a faster marathoner, I am capable of living the life of my dreams.